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So, what is conflict and how can it be resolved? Conflict resolution is one of the tools needed to overcome these often acute difficulties.
NLP has the technology and provides
a rich set of tools for resolving internal and interpersonal
conflicts.
These tools include techniques of Reframing, Conflict Integration, shifting Perceptual Positions, and many
fundamental communication skills such as the Meta Model,
Calibration and non-verbal communication methods.
"Conflict" is defined as “a
state of disharmony between incompatible persons, ideas,
or interests.”
Psychologically, conflict is a
mental struggle, sometimes unconscious, which results
when different internal representations of the world are held.
Conflicts can occur either between parts
of ourselves internally (inner conflict) or externally
with others (interpersonal conflict). |
Conflicting “Parts”
Sometimes, people experience a sense
of being in “two
minds” or “at odds” with themselves. Part
of them wants to do one thing while another part wants to do
something else. These issues do not relate so much to external
pressures, but rather to the deeper structures within the person.
This is conflict between different parts of your own mental
system. Resolution of conflict can begin to help and integrate these parts.
In a typical situation, if we stay focused on our outcome
and are subjected to various obstacles, we use our flexibility
and explore other avenues or strategies to obtain the goal. All conflicts can be overcome.
If there is an internal conflict
a battle begins between the two parts of one's own self. Then
we quickly become frustration - we are caught between a rock
and a hard place - we are damned if we do and damned if we
don’t.
The constant stress coming derived from conflict and frustration
can lead to other problems.
Parts Integration
NLP has processes that can resolve these issues. Conflict integration is one of the major NLP interventions and is essential
to the resolution of many mental, physical and interpersonal
problems.
The following is a general overview of the NLP approach to addressing conflict:
- Clearly identify the key issues involved in the conflict - the two parts
- These "conflicts" are usually expressed as opposites
- Find the positive intention and purpose behind the issues
of each party
- Make sure that each party recognises and acknowledges the
positive intent of the other
- Chunk up until a common intention on a higher level has
been identified that both parties share eg learning
- Integrate the parts
We offer phone coaching as an alternative,
practical solution if you prefer this approach. However, one-on-one
in person coaching for all areas of coaching and personal assistance
is better and always available.
For Information about Dealing With Inner Conflict, call us on:
Australia: (03) 9533 4023
Mobile: 0411 569 058
Overseas: +61 3 9533 4023
or e-Mail at: mike@knowyourmind.com
AND DON’T FORGET
- WE GUARANTEE RESULTS! |
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